Do you write 'to-do' lists,
which you rarely complete?
If you're anything like me, you'll have
answered yes to both these questions!
After a bruising day at work, whether it's toiling
on a building site, battling office politics or dealing with troublesome
customers, the simple task of getting home and putting a meal on the table before
clearing it up can feel like a major achievement, but:
What about the peeling paint in
the bathroom? You said you'd get it done last week!
Did you remember you need to
pick Katie up from her friend's house tonight?
You'll need to get some fresh
milk for breakfast tomorrow!
It's easy to become overwhelmed by the demands of every-day
life before losing sight of what we really want to achieve. It's easy to put things off which we know we should do, whilst pouring our energies into dealing with smaller and less significant things. But
amidst the chaos and conflicting priorities, is it possible to be more productive at home
without actually becoming any busier than we already are?
I suggest
3 tips to help:
1) Take
action on the truly important things:
Of course, I want to live in a neat and tidy house, perfectly decorated, with stunning features and accompanied by a lush
garden, which oozes class. Of course I want to make stacks of money whilst
working minimal hours so I can spend my best time with my wife, children and on my
hobbies ... who wouldn't want that? But that's not real life for most people
and when we try to achieve it, we generally cause untold stress on ourselves and on those
around us.
If you want to be more productive at home, identify
the things which are truly important to you, the things which if you were not
able to achieve, your entire being would be damaged. Normally, what comes
at the top of most people's wish-lists are high quality relationships with
our loved ones rather than a lush garden or a tidy house.
Once you've identified the important things, take
action to make them happen. The less important things can wait and if you ever get
round to achieving them, it's a bonus and if you don't achieve them, it's not a
big deal.
2) Lower
your standards on trivial things
This is obviously linked to the first tip. Time is both
infinite and constant and it's impossible to make more time. Therefore, if you
want to be more productive at home with the important things, you may have to
lower your standards on the trivial things.
For example, whilst my kitchen is spotless and like
something out of an ideal show-home, the rest of my house is generally a bit dusty, I only iron what is absolutely crucial and whilst
our meals are home-cooked, we try to keep them simple during the week ... just
a few small sacrifices we make because our top priority is spending quality
time together.
"Take pleasure in what you do achieve rather than
beating yourself up about what you don't achieve."
So many of us fall into the trap of looking at our neighbours and thinking they have it easier than we do, that they're doing a better job at juggling work and home life or have the garden we'd love, or the car we wish we could afford. The funny thing is, quite often, they're looking at us wishing that they had something that we take for granted.
So many of us fall into the trap of looking at our neighbours and thinking they have it easier than we do, that they're doing a better job at juggling work and home life or have the garden we'd love, or the car we wish we could afford. The funny thing is, quite often, they're looking at us wishing that they had something that we take for granted.
Delight in the things you do achieve, and make
peace with the things you don't achieve ... remember … there's something ironic about the fact that
the things you don't achieve, are not achieved only because you put your energies
into the good things which you have achieved!
3) Kill two
birds with one stone wherever possible
I massively value my time with my children and
wife. That said, there are jobs which still need doing around the house and
which could eat into that quality time. Talking of eating, we value eating home-cooked
food, we value eating around a table together and as I already mentioned, we
value eating in our spotless kitchen. So in order to achieve quality time and a spotless kitchen, the kids help us to keep it looking good.
After a meal, they get to choose what chores they
do out of the dishwasher, clearing the table, wiping the table, sweeping the
floor, putting away and whatever else needs doing ... and they also get to
choose which radio station we have on in the background. We then clear up
together. Family time becomes chore time, which becomes family time, it's all
the same thing.
When you have many things, which you want to
achieve, consider how you can 'kill two birds with one stone', take aim and
throw that one stone!
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Thank you for these suggestions, they are very helpful. I have to admit it sometimes gets very draining when i keep high standards and don't involve the kids with house chores. Now i am being more conscious of involving everyone with as much as possible. Great Post Andrew!
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comment and feedback - am glad you found the post useful.
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